Archive for May, 2018

WHAT THE LIVING DO

by Marie Howe

 

Johnny, the kitchen sink has been clogged for days, 
  some utensil probably fell down there.
And the Drano won't work but smells dangerous, 
  and the crusty dishes have piled up

waiting for the plumber I still haven't called. 
  This is the everyday we spoke of.
It's winter again: the sky's a deep, headstrong blue, 
  and the sunlight pours through

the open living-room windows because the heat's on too high 
  in here and I can't turn it off.
For weeks now, driving, or dropping a bag of groceries 
  in the street, the bag breaking,

I've been thinking: This is what the living do. 
  And yesterday, hurrying along those
wobbly bricks in the Cambridge sidewalk, spilling my coffee 
  down my wrist and sleeve,

I thought it again, and again later, when buying a hairbrush: 
  This is it.
Parking. Slamming the car door shut in the cold. 
  What you called that yearning.

What you finally gave up. We want the spring to come 
  and the winter to pass. We want
whoever to call or not call, a letter, a kiss--we want 
  more and more and then more of it.

But there are moments, walking, when I catch a glimpse 
  of myself in the window glass,
say, the window of the corner video store, and 
  I'm gripped by a cherishing so deep

for my own blowing hair, chapped face, and 
  unbuttoned coat that I'm speechless:
I am living. I remember you.

Random quote of the day:

“Belief cannot be transferred, for it is a function of experience.”

—Dennis Gaffin, Running with the Fairies

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this random quote of the day do not necessarily reflect the views of the poster, her immediate family, Orville and Wilbur, Katy Perry, or the Avengers. They do, however, sometimes reflect the views of the Cottingley Fairies.

Random quote of the day:

“That we go numb along the way is to be expected. Even the bravest among us, who give their lives to care for others, go numb with fatigue, when the heart can take in no more, when we need time to digest all we meet. Overloaded and overwhelmed, we start to pull back from the world, so we can internalize what the world keeps giving us. Perhaps the noblest private act is the unheralded effort to return: to open our hearts once they’ve closed, to open our souls once they’ve shied away, to soften our minds once they’ve been hardened by the storms of our day.”

—Mark Nepo, “Hearing the Cries of the World,” Parabola Magazine, Summer 2013

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this random quote of the day do not necessarily reflect the views of the poster, her immediate family, Orville and Wilbur, Katy Perry, or the Avengers. They do, however, sometimes reflect the views of the Cottingley Fairies.

Random quote of the day:

“The angels smoke, hiding it with their sleeves, and when the archangel comes, they throw the cigarettes away: that’s when you get shooting stars.”

—Vladimir Nabokov, letter to his wife Vera, 17 January 1924

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this random quote of the day do not necessarily reflect the views of the poster, her immediate family, Orville and Wilbur, Katy Perry, or the Avengers. They do, however, sometimes reflect the views of the Cottingley Fairies.

Random quote of the day:

“Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing.”

—August Wilson, quoted by Seattle Repertory Theatre

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Random quote of the day:

“We do not actually know it, but we sense it: our life has a sister vessel which plies an entirely different route.”

—Tomas Tranströmer, “The Blue House” (tr. Göran Malmqvist)

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Random quote of the day:

“Wonder rather than doubt is the root of knowledge.”

—Abraham J. Heschel, Man Is Not Alone

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GoFundMe link: https://www.gofundme.com/help-lisa-pay-for-2-funerals

Update

Lisa hasn’t even reached the halfway point and times are tough. Huge thanks to everyone who has donated, forwarded, or shared Lisa’s story.

Update

The attorney who has been helping Lisa in Colorado informed her Monday that due to the creditors’ period (120 days in Colorado), she will be unable to even list her sister’s property until August so she can expect no income from that for much longer than she hoped. She had to abandon her online store when she left her home to care for her parents and is trying to get that restarted, but that will also take time. Any help would be greatly appreciated—donations, retweets, sharing or reposting. An overwhelming thank you to everyone who has helped so far.

Lisa’s online shops:

https://www.cafepress.com/fbod
and
https://www.zazzle.com/fbod+gifts

Story:

I’ve set up this GoFundMe for my good friend, Lisa Clardy (hominysnark), who has had to pay for two funerals within the last year.

For the previous five years she was the sole caregiver for her elderly mother as she battled Alzheimer’s. She gave up her own home in Orlando to move 100 miles away to live with her mother and care for her full time.

Lisa and her mother, Martha

Lisa’s mother, Martha, passed away last year, leaving a modest estate which was divided between Lisa and her sister, Anita, Lisa’s only close living relative. However, the funeral costs, including transport of her mother’s body from Florida to Arkansas so she could be buried with Lisa’s dad, came out of Lisa’s resources. Anita, who lived in Colorado, was supposed to help with these expenses but was unable to do so.

Then tragically and unexpectedly, her sister Anita died at the beginning of this year.  Lisa not only had to pay the funeral expenses for Anita, and airline expenses to go to Colorado, but discovered that Anita’s estate was in a mess: she owed a huge debt in unpaid taxes and Anita’s house was badly in need of cleaning and repair. Lisa had to hire attorneys, cleaning and repair crews, and finally exhausted the last of her resources paying property taxes.

She will probably be able to sell Anita’s house eventually, but that is months down the line, and the realtors she consulted estimated that about half of the potential sale price will be eaten up to pay Anita’s back taxes and other debt.

In the meantime, Lisa doesn’t have enough resources to pay her own debts and living expenses. We are asking for $4,600 to meet Lisa’s short-term needs for bills and household expenses for the next months until there’s some resolution of Anita’s estate.

Lisa gave up a great deal to care for her mother and has suffered much heartbreak the last year. I would hate to see her suffer more due to financial issues. Please help if you can, please share my link on your Twitter timeline or elsewhere to get the word out. Even if you can’t help financially, we would both appreciate very much if you forward the link. Both Lisa and I thank you for reading this and for any help you may offer.

GoFundMe link: https://www.gofundme.com/help-lisa-pay-for-2-funerals

Random quote of the day:

“Moments not quite ready to be shaped are already there, waiting, and we feel their presence.”

—Robert Penn Warren, The Paris Review, Spring-Summer 1957, No. 16

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this random quote of the day do not necessarily reflect the views of the poster, her immediate family, Orville and Wilbur, Katy Perry, or the Avengers. They do, however, sometimes reflect the views of the Cottingley Fairies.

Random quote of the day:

“Man does not die. Man imagines that it is death he fears; but what he fears is the unforeseen, the explosion. What man fears is himself, not death. There is no death when you meet death.”

—Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, Flight to Arras, tr. Lewis Galantiere

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this random quote of the day do not necessarily reflect the views of the poster, her immediate family, Orville and Wilbur, Katy Perry, or the Avengers. They do, however, sometimes reflect the views of the Cottingley Fairies.