aging


Sometimes older women in the workforce are told by younger ambitious women to get out of the way and let the young women have a shot. Perhaps older men are told this, too, but I can’t speak to their experience. The heartbreaking thing about this is that it doesn’t just happen in the hallways of power. All my life I’ve been working class, struggling to get by the best I could, but I’ve had this said to me. And female friends of mine who are in the hallways of power have also had it said to them. Ageism is as insidious as sexism, but I have to tell you, hearing this crap from your same sex has a real double sting.

Thankfully, for many reasons, I have left the workforce, but ageism continues apace.

Now, ageism is wrong no matter which direction it’s going. Older people trashing younger people is just as wrong, and I’ve heard that, too. Often, it’s from people of a certain level of affluence trashing younger people who they don’t think are doing things “the right way.” Back in the olden days this was referred to as The Generation Gap—and yes, I was once young and criticized by members of the Greatest Generation for not doing things the way they thought I should. But as Judith Tarr recently pointed out eloquently on Twitter, this has always been about power, not the inherent goodness or wrongness of a certain generation. Stoking the flames of generational warfare has always been a tactic of those in power who want to keep us bickering about shit like this so they can keep on doing their real nasty deeds without interference. As Ms. Tarr pointed out, “It’s never the age, children. It’s rich vs poor. The rich want to rob us and roll us and dump us to starve. Always did. Always will….Your kids are going to say the same exact things about you.”

If the older woman in question doesn’t choose to consign herself to the ash heap of history, she is sometimes accused of being greedy. But everyone deserves their shot, older people, younger people, of being a constructive member of society. You’re not wasting air and/or resources if you are still trying hard to give something back.

So listen up: I’m trying hard. And I will not get out of the way. You shouldn’t, either, no matter what your age.

Random quote of the day:

“Every man desires to live long, but no man would be old.”

—Jonathan Swift, Thoughts on Various Subjects from Miscellanies

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Random quote of the day:

“Youth has no age.”

—Pablo Picasso, Pablo Picasso: What He Said by Narim Bender

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Random quote of the day:

“The old cherry tree’s
final blossoms are her last
cherished memory.”

—Bashō (tr. Sam Hamill in Narrow Road to the Interior)

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Random quote of the day:

“At eighteen our convictions are hills from which we look; at forty-five they are caves in which we hide.”

—F. Scott Fitzgerald, “Bernice Bobs Her Hair”

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Random quote of the day:

“People don’t realize how quickly they’re going to be old, either. Time goes very fast.”

—Doris Lessing, The Paris Review, Issue 106, Spring 1988

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Random quote of the day:

“And how much better to die in all the happy period of undisillusioned youth, to go out in a blaze of light, than to have your body worn out and old and illusions shattered.”

—Ernest Hemingway, letter to his family, October 18, 1918 (when he was 19)

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Random quote of the day:

“Undergraduate consciousness rests in part on a set of careless assumptions about being immortal. The elitism and cruelty often found in college humor arises from this belief in one’s own Exemption, not only from time and death, but somehow from the demands of life as well.”

—Thomas Pynchon, Introduction, 1983 ed. of Richard Fariña’s Been Down So Long It Looks Like Up To Me

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Random quote of the day:

“When you were young, you thought time was a burden, something to be discharged as fast as possible so you could be grown-up. But it was such a bait-n-switch—when you were an adult, you came to realize that minutes and hours were the single most precious thing you had.”

—J. R. Ward, Lover Reborn

 

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Random quote of the day:

“You can be nasty when you are young, but you really have to be older to achieve bitterness.”

—Fran Lebowitz, The Paris Review, Issue 127, Summer 1993

 

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