Archive for March, 2018

GoFundMe link: https://www.gofundme.com/help-lisa-pay-for-2-funerals

I’ve set up this GoFundMe for my good friend, Lisa Clardy (hominysnark), who has had to pay for two funerals within the last year.

For the previous five years she was the sole caregiver for her elderly mother as she battled Alzheimer’s. She gave up her own home in Orlando to move 100 miles away to live with her mother and care for her full time.

Lisa and her mother, Martha

Lisa’s mother, Martha, passed away last year, leaving a modest estate which was divided between Lisa and her sister, Anita, Lisa’s only close living relative. However, the funeral costs, including transport of her mother’s body from Florida to Arkansas so she could be buried with Lisa’s dad, came out of Lisa’s resources. Anita, who lived in Colorado, was supposed to help with these expenses but was unable to do so.

Then tragically and unexpectedly, her sister Anita died at the beginning of this year.  Lisa not only had to pay the funeral expenses for Anita, and airline expenses to go to Colorado, but discovered that Anita’s estate was in a mess: she owed a huge debt in unpaid taxes and Anita’s house was badly in need of cleaning and repair. Lisa had to hire attorneys, cleaning and repair crews, and finally exhausted the last of her resources paying property taxes.

She will probably be able to sell Anita’s house eventually, but that is months down the line, and the realtors she consulted estimated that about half of the potential sale price will be eaten up to pay Anita’s back taxes and other debt.

In the meantime, Lisa doesn’t have enough resources to pay her own debts and living expenses. We are asking for $4,600 to meet Lisa’s short-term needs for bills and household expenses for the next months until there’s some resolution of Anita’s estate.

Lisa gave up a great deal to care for her mother and has suffered much heartbreak the last year. I would hate to see her suffer more due to financial issues. Please help if you can, please share my link on your Twitter timeline or elsewhere to get the word out. Even if you can’t help financially, we would both appreciate very much if you forward the link. Both Lisa and I thank you for reading this and for any help you may offer.

GoFundMe link: https://www.gofundme.com/help-lisa-pay-for-2-funerals

Random quote of the day:

“Insight is a breakthrough, requiring much intellectual dismantling and dislocation. It begins with a mental interim, with the cultivation of a feeling for the unfamiliar, unparalleled, incredible. It is in being involved with a phenomenon, being intimately engaged to it, courting it, as it were, that after much perplexity and embarrassment we come upon insight—upon a way of seeing the phenomenon from within.”

—Abraham J. Heschel, The Prophets

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this random quote of the day do not necessarily reflect the views of the poster, her immediate family, Lucy and Ethel, Justin Bieber, or the Kardashian Klan. They do, however, sometimes reflect the views of the Cottingley Fairies.

Random quote of the day:

“Great art is the result of eccentric, individual passions, not test screenings, market research, and crowd sourcing.”

—Sherman Alexie, Twitterfeed, 1/26/12

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this random quote of the day do not necessarily reflect the views of the poster, her immediate family, Lucy and Ethel, Justin Bieber, or the Kardashian Klan. They do, however, sometimes reflect the views of the Cottingley Fairies.

Random quote of the day:

“The silence doesn’t seem to care. It is simply there for anyone who has ears to hear. It is so huge and so intense. It has the sweetness of a balm and the heat of a fire.”

—Nicole Oxenhandler, The Wishing Year

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this random quote of the day do not necessarily reflect the views of the poster, her immediate family, Lucy and Ethel, Justin Bieber, or the Kardashian Klan. They do, however, sometimes reflect the views of the Cottingley Fairies.

Sometimes my anger is an ice scalpel
cutting with pleasure, glorying
in slicing, hungering for deeper cuts.

Sometimes my anger is a bludgeon,
turned outward to smash and bully,
to get my way, to assuage my ego.
This anger never holds sway:
guilt beats me back as hard as I hit.

Sometimes my anger is a snake
devouring its own tail. But this
Ouroboros, instead of infinite wholeness,
destroys, particularizes, breaks apart.
It consumes me, digesting my own bloated
corpse, dissolving me to nothingness.

Sometimes my anger is a vision,
sweeping away denials and delusions,
forcing me to see things as they
truly stand: in dreamless clarity.

Sometimes my anger is a fire god,
burning me clean and truly righteous,
pulling me up from the pyre to stand
and speak, to do those needful things.
To change myself, and thus the world.

 

My friend Kevin, after reading in last week’s poem about rivers devouring children, said I was a real Metal poet. I agreed that sometimes I was a #FullMetalPoet. This week’s entry does nothing to dispel that notion, I suppose, but that’s why I love poetry. Like all the best things in the world, it doesn’t always have to be pretty.

 

 

*For the poetry project, phase one go here.

*For a definition of Phase 2, go here.

*To see all the poems in one place go here.

Random quote of the day:

“To know rapture is to have one’s whole life poisoned. If you will forgive a ridiculous analogy, a tincture of rapture is like a red bandana in the laundry that runs and turns all the white wash pink. We should just as soon stay away from any future ecstatic experiences which spoil everyday living by comparison.

—Philip Lopate, “Against Joie de Vivre,” Against Joie de Vivre: Personal Essays

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this random quote of the day do not necessarily reflect the views of the poster, her immediate family, Lucy and Ethel, Justin Bieber, or the Kardashian Klan. They do, however, sometimes reflect the views of the Cottingley Fairies.

Random quote of the day:

“Magic is as old as man. It is found as far back as evidence of human existence runs and has influenced religion, art, agriculture, industry, science, government, and social institutions. The western tradition of magic was born in the Roman world at about the same time as Christ, but its ultimate ancestry is veiled in the mists and cloudbanks of prehistory.”

—Richard Cavendish, A History of Magic

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this random quote of the day do not necessarily reflect the views of the poster, her immediate family, Lucy and Ethel, Justin Bieber, or the Kardashian Klan. They do, however, sometimes reflect the views of the Cottingley Fairies.

Random quote of the day:

“His talent was as natural as the pattern that was made by the dust on a butterfly’s wings.”

—Ernest Hemingway on F. Scott Fitzgerald, A Moveable Feast

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Random quote of the day:

“Love defeats philosophy, semantics, psychology and plain sense. That is how you know it’s love.”

—Joyce Carol Oates, Twitterfeed, June 18, 2013

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this random quote of the day do not necessarily reflect the views of the poster, her immediate family, Lucy and Ethel, Justin Bieber, or the Kardashian Klan. They do, however, sometimes reflect the views of the Cottingley Fairies.

Random quote of the day:

“A bird that you set free may be caught again, but a word that escapes your lips will not returns.”

—Jewish proverb

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this random quote of the day do not necessarily reflect the views of the poster, her immediate family, Lucy and Ethel, Justin Bieber, or the Kardashian Klan. They do, however, sometimes reflect the views of the Cottingley Fairies.