Random quote of the day:

“Writers end up writing stories—or rather, stories’ shadows—and they’re grateful if they can, but it is not enough. Nothing the writer can do is ever enough.”

—Joy Williams, “Uncanny Singing That Comes From Certain Husks,” Why I Write, ed. Will Blythe

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Random quote of the day:

“You are permitted, in time of great danger, to walk with the devil until you have crossed the bridge.”

—Bulgarian proverb

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Random quote of the day:

“It is characteristic of all movements and crusades that the psychopathic element rises to the top.”

—Robert Lindner, “Political Creed and Characters,” Must You Conform?

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Random quote of the day:

“When you wage war on the public schools, you’re attacking the mortar that holds the community together. You’re not a Conservative, you’re a vandal.”

—Garrison Keillor, Homegrown Democrat

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My mother loved collecting chatchkes. Some because she loved them, some because they were given to her, some just because they were there. Most of them are not really to my taste, so my plan has been for some time to sell them on eBay. Why shouldn’t someone who actually likes this stuff have it? And why shouldn’t I make a little cash on the side?

I’m keeping some of the chatchkes because I do like them, but there are others I’m keeping because I feel too guilty about selling them. These were dear to my mother and I just can’t bring myself to get rid of them. Let whoever has to clean out this house when I croak and won’t know what my mother loved deal with them. (Sorry, unknown person of the future.)

It’s odd the power that things can have over us. We shouldn’t let them, but we do. Still, I console myself that I am getting rid of a whole bunch of junk. That is, treasures that I do not sufficiently appreciate.

I have put some of the eBay plan into action, but I still have a ways to go before listing and selling. It will only be two weeks today since I left my job and I’ve had some serious depressurizing to do. I’m slowly getting there. I think I have plenty of time to bring this plan about, but we all think that, don’t we? One never knows when time will run out. But I would like to get this junk gone before that poor above-mentioned person has to deal with it. I really want to streamline this house. Need. I need to. For my own sanity.

Maybe I’ll even have the gumption to start cleaning out my mother’s room soon. It will be three years in January since she passed. I’ve moved things into her room in temporary storage, managed to give away all her clothes to the cleaning lady (who actually did the job of cleaning out the closet), but mostly her room remains a time capsule. I just haven’t had the heart to deal with it—and frankly, I see no reason to push myself. It’s an important part of the grieving and moving on cycle, but it’s also important to do things when the time is right for me.

Those things in that room are not my mom, much of it not even vaguely precious to her, but they are the last tenuous physical link I have to her. I need to get to the point of getting rid of them without feeling like I’m getting rid of her.

There are people who will say (who have said) that I should bite the bullet and just do it. But I fundamentally disagree with them. Grief is a process. It must be moved through on its own timetable. And only the one who is doing the grieving knows what that timetable is.

In the meantime, I am surrounded by junk, both precious and not. But I am in motion. I hope to stay in motion, to keep moving forward until time stops.

Random quote of the day:

“Trust the deepest intuitions of your heart. Trust the source of your own truest gladness. Trust the road.”

—Frederick Buechner, “The Road Goes On,” A Room Called Remember

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Random quote of the day:

“A beautiful woman who is pleasing to men is good only for frightening fish when she falls into the water.”

—Zen proverb

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Random quote of the day:

“Nothing can break the mood of a piece of writing like bad dialogue. My students are miserable when they are reading an otherwise terrific story to the class and then hit a patch of dialogue that is so purple and expositional that it reads like something from a childhood play by the Gabor sisters….I can see the surprise of my students’ faces, because the dialogue looked okay on paper, yet now it sounds as if it were poorly translated from their native Hindi.”

—Anne Lamott, Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life

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Random quote of the day:

“You wander from room to room
Hunting for the diamond necklace
That is already around your neck.”

—attributed to Jelaluddin Rumi

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Random quote of the day:

“Silence can be prayer. Rage can be prayer. It’s truth. It’s all prayer. When we are talking to something that the rest of the world may not be seeing right that minute and we’re talking from the deepest part of our heart, we’re trying to tell the truth. That’s prayer.”

—Anne Lamott, “Soul to Soul2: Asking Life’s Big Questions,” Oprah Winfrey’s Super Soul Sunday

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